soulbrother v.2: Ain't I a Womanist: Part 1--One Brother Attempts to Ground with His Sisters

soulbrother v.2: Ain't I a Womanist: Part 1--One Brother Attempts to Ground with His Sisters

From what you described you didn't do anything wrong.

I recently read something about pain and suffering, something to the effect of pain being the physical result of an event. That event could be physical or mental. Suffering is the mind's attempt to resist in some way what has happened, making suffering a choice and a perception. One can deal with the pain constructively or one could let the fact that they received the pain haunt them.

This you woman could have easily or simply said something to you before, during or after and this situation would not exist right now. She chose to suffer. You both could have gained immeasurably through effective communication. You both still can. Hint.

Man to man, if you think you are going to find one simple solution to dealing with anyone and their perceptions, you are going to frustrated many a day. Especially with women, you'll never know what they have going on in their lives, much less what's in their past. You would have to know a person's mental makeup (psychology), believe systems (theology or religion), and their approach to life (philosophy). There is know way for you to do that in a business environment.

You intentions were good and that's about it going into the situation. Now looking back at it, if it's bothering you try talking to her (with someone present). You might find resolution.

I agree with many of the previous post, she could very well have felt out of place and didn't know how to process it.

Let me finish with this, I am thinking of a number between one and a hundred guess what that number is. Would you play this game having no more of a clue than that? Even if you were to guess the correct number I could just as easily change it and you would never know. Are you going to deal with the pain or will you choose to suffer the not knowing what her issue is?